Rii - I don't know your full details - but I do know some of your pain.I did it old school - called the Future father-in-law (8 days!) and asked his permission to marry his daughter, which earnt me alot of points.you mentioned that your partners family is Aisian - maybe try learning a speech in their native language - video calling her father and give him your speech? (again don't know your full details, but it might convince the her dad that you aren't an ass and care about his daughter)
I should have asked her father in the first place, but I didn't because I knew what his answer was going to be and so did my partner. That's how anti they are about the whole thing. I had asked my partner to marry me with the intention to then go and ask her Father for permission because we both knew what we wanted - the asking her part was just a formality. Then it was suggested that we both talk to her father, which we did at which point he showed serious disapproval that we were both expecting but we explained that we weren't rushing into anything and that we were making decisions as level headed adults and they both understood and said that he supported us.They've now back tracked on that.I went one step further and designed their family crest, I researched Japanese lineage dating back from the 800's and presented the crest to my partners father when they made the trip over last, framed and printed - and I quote "no one has ever taken such good care of the XXXXXXX name since my mother died" which I wept over, I still haven't received such high praise for anything I've created especially since his mother was seen as a matriarch, the head of the family.Again, they've wiped the slate clean - I'm not up to scratch.I get the feeling that they have been expecting us to break up before now, and now they've realised that I have no intentions on flaking out they've become pro-active and would like me to fade away.I grew suspicious when I was being told that I should go to the UK for a few years to do internships... wat
Hah. It just saddens me that my partner isn't showing a little more backbone towards them. Also, just to make things a little more fucked up, she wont compromise and stay in the country a little until I can find another way into the US. She doesn't think it's worth it to pay $500 for a specific visa which would allow her to get a job here only to have us leave for the US in about a year.I know that once she is in the US without me, her parents will work her over and have her cut all ties with me.I'm trying to make heads or tails of it all.
Then maybe she doesn't deserve you....
The whole "I don't want to piss my parents off and try and work something out" is really making me feel uneasy about how she truly feels about our relationship.
They obviously know the game and how to play it
then shit on his keyboard just to totally dominate him!FLAWLESS VICTORY!
don't make me bitch slap you xsssanazazzs!
Cleared my head a bit.Had a chat with mum. Fucking love my mum.
If it makes you feel any better, I also love your mother
